Two Minutes Du Jour

We’ve all been there—looking forward to an event, eagerly anticipating reconnecting with friends or colleagues, only to realize as the day approaches that something feels off. Whether it’s a nagging cold, a care-giving responsibility, or the simple but powerful need for some quiet time, sometimes the best decision is to stay home. Permission granted.

Recently, my co-teacher and I held our semi-annual reunion for students and alumni from Metro State. It’s an event we look forward to—an opportunity to catch up with people we’ve taught and mentored over the years.

But life has a way of changing even the best-laid plans. One person messaged saying they had COVID symptoms. Another needed to care for a parent who had just had surgery. Someone else was taking some much-needed self-care. Each of them made the best choice to bow out.

Listen to yourself. If your body or mind is telling you to slow down or focus on something else, honor that. No event is worth sacrificing your well-being.

Next, when changing your RSVP from yes to no, keep it simple. You don’t owe anyone a long explanation or elaborate excuse. It’s about letting the group know, without the weight of guilt hanging over your decision.

Remember, the group will miss you—they really will—but they’ll understand.

Give yourself the freedom to prioritize your needs without guilt. In a world that often pushes us to do more and show up no matter what, choosing to stay home can be an act of self-care that brings clarity and peace. After all, the most important event is the one happening within you.

Two Links Du Jour:

How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty – Psychology Today

How to Say No After Saying Yes – Harvard Business Review