Two Minutes Du Jour

I’m about halfway through David Brooks’ latest book, “How to Know a Person,” and I don’t want to wait to share what I’m learning. I’m captivated by a compelling question: Are we Illuminators or Diminishers in our interactions with others? This book explores the profound impact our interactions can have, not just on the surface but in human connection.

Brooks posits that every interaction presents a choice—to illuminate or to diminish. To illuminate is to make someone feel seen, heard, understood, and valued. It’s a powerful approach that transcends small talk and paves the way for meaningful, fulfilling relationships. As I read, I find myself reflecting on how often I choose to illuminate. It’s a choice that can transform an ordinary exchange into a moment of true connection.

This idea resonates deeply with me because it captures the essence of engaging genuinely with someone. It’s about more than just being pleasant; it’s about being present, intentional, and profoundly respectful. This isn’t just theoretical—it’s a practical, everyday choice with the power to alter the course of our interactions and relationships.

Tools for Illumination

Brooks doesn’t just philosophize; he offers concrete tools to help us become better Illuminators. Active listening, empathy exercises, and story exchanges are just a few strategies that can help us build stronger, more empathetic connections with those around us. Each tool is a step towards understanding others and enriching our lives by fostering truly reciprocal and rewarding relationships.

A Call to Reflect

As we go about our daily lives, I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to pause and choose. In your next interaction, will you diminish or illuminate? Think about a time when you felt truly seen and valued. How did it change your interaction? How did it make you feel?

Let’s make a pledge together: In our next conversation, let’s choose to illuminate. Let’s make our small part of the world a little brighter, one genuine connection at a time.

What do you think? Have you had an experience where someone truly made you feel seen or heard? Share your stories in the comments below, and let’s inspire each other to keep the light shining!

Two Minutes Du Jour:

Interview with author David Brooks – PBS

How to Know a Person, The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen by David Brooks, author of The Road to Character – Penguin Random House